By Sarah Bellum
So your relationship is not the dream come true that you thought it would be. You can see what’s wrong, but you can’t figure out how to make it right. You’ve asked numerous people, maybe even had some Psychic Bitch readings, but unless you have acted on that advice, nothing is going to change—and because there is another person involved, then their free will comes into play, too. Any relationship is a two way street. However, if both of you are willing to work on things, it is entirely possible—and not difficult—to fix your relationship with magic.
Be Mindful What You Project
How many times have you known people who complain about their partner as just not being the person they used to be. It’s human nature to grow and evolve, and the key to relationships being successful is that you have to grow and evolve together. If your relationship is off kilter, one of the first things you can do is to go back to being the person you were when you started dating. I can promise you that way back then, you were not worried about whether they’d gone off you or what was yet to come. You were just excited to see them and happy to be with them and stimulated to consider what the future might hold for the two of you. A bit of magic can help you go back to being that carefree person. I promise you it helps!
Examine What’s Really Going On
Many times when a relationship hits a rocky patch, it’s easy to fall back into past patterns of behavior. As a counselor, I see this time and time again. Someone from your past treated you badly, so you project that pain onto the person who is in your life now, but you have to pause and remember that they were not the person from your past; they were not there, and it is unfair to expect them to act in the same way or to blame them for something that someone else did. Magic is a good way to break those ties with the past and to move forward, so you can be fully present and work on your current issues, rather than dwelling in the past.
Admit Your Part in the Problems
Sometimes you get so conditioned to a situation that it is easy to overlook that part of the issue may lie with you—especially if you are used to playing the victim. A very wise person once told me that there are no victims, only volunteers. When you take claim your authentic empowerment, it creates a confidence that no one can take away from you. You cannot control what another person chooses to do—not even the angels themselves can do that—but you can control how you respond. When you start to see the role you play in relationship issues, you can do your part to change your own behavior to try to rectify the situation.
A Simple Spell to Fix Your Relationship with Magic
If you’re having relationship issues, if you want to draw closer to someone, or even if you’re tired of being alone and want to attract a new romance into your life, this simple spell will help you on your way. You will need:
- A green candle (or a white candle in a green candle holder).
- A match or lighter to light the candle.
- A small plant pot filled with potting soil.
- Some kind of seeds; any kind of seed will do; sunflower, squash, you choose.
- A small jug of water.
This spell is best done one hour after sunset on one of the year’s quarter days, such as the winter or summer solstice, or the spring or autumn equinox, but if you’re in a hurry, you can do it any Sunday when the Moon is going from new to full. Do not do this when the Moon is going from full to new again; the spell will not be effective.
Light the candle and as you do, say the following words:
“I claim the power of the universe
And my own authentic empowerment
To grow and improve my relationship
With myself and with others.
I plant these seeds to ground and guide me
And to be a daily reminder
That I have the right
To create my own destiny
To love and be loved
To cherish and be cherished
And to have a fulfilling relationship
So it was, so it is, and so it will ever be.”
Now water the seeds from the water in the jug. Pinch out the candle, or use a candle snuffer (don’t blow it out—there’s a reason for this). Now look after your pot of seeds, and when they start to sprout, know that the magic is working. Give the plant to a gardening friend who will take care of it. You’ve taken the first step; now act on that intention, and make it so!
Even though you have started to fix your relationship with magic, it’s going to take much more than a spell to get things back on track. You have to mean the words you say. You have to be willing to be the changes that you want to see with your partner—or if you are single and looking for love, you have to be the changes that you’d like to see in a loving relationship, for like energy will always attract like energy. The more loving and receptive you are, the more loving and receptive others will be toward you.
Magic is powerful stuff, but there is no shortcut when it comes to being successful in love, or any other area of your life. Magic won’t force someone to love you, and you will not suddenly become more lovable simply because you have worked a spell. However, when used appropriately, and you match the magic spell with your own intent, you really can fix your relationship and much more. You simply have to be a willing participant, have patience, and allow the success to unfold gently and sweetly and in its own time.
About Sarah Bellum
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