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<\/p>\nYou\u2019ve broken up and you think it is the end of the world. You don\u2019t know how you\u2019re going to survive. I don\u2019t know how many times I get clients writing to me, \u201cWhen will he come back?\u201d When will she love me again?\u201d What can I do to make her want to marry me?\u201d \u201cWhy doesn\u2019t he love me as much as I love him?\u201d It\u2019s human nature to want to be loved and happy with someone, but it\u2019s far too easy to panic, and that\u2019s where things really get complicated. Yes, you can have a very happy reunion, once you know how to get your ex to love you again. Following these steps will get you off to a good start!<\/p>\n
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Stop texting. Stop calling. Stop going where you think they might see you. I know that it\u2019s easy to think if you stay in contact then you\u2019ve got a better chance of a reconciliation, but that\u2019s not really how it works. If you\u2019re too obvious, you take away any mystery that might have captivated them in the first place. Let them see you carefree and happy. If you\u2019re moping around and miserable, yeah, you might pull on their heart strings, but do you want them to come back because they feel sorry for you, or because they love you and want to be with you? Pity is not your friend. Coming off as someone who\u2019s sad and needy just reinforces to your ex that they\u2019re better without you, and you don\u2019t want that to happen, do you? You want them to see what they\u2019re missing, and rethink the idea of letting you get away, right? If they get the idea, and reach out to you, under no circumstances do you answer or reply. You\u2019re nurturing that air of mystery and independence, and you\u2019ll blow it if you grab at communication the first time that it appears!<\/p>\n
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You\u2019ll do anything to get them back. Anything. This might seem like a good plan, but begging and pleading only reinforces their position that leaving is the right thing to do. The more you implore them to stay, the more they\u2019ll dig in their heels about going. You can make all the promises you want, but where will that get you, really? You need them to love you for who you are, not for what you\u2019ll do for them or for what you\u2019ll put up with. If you promise too much, avow to do anything in order to get them to stay, you turn yourself into a doormat, someone who will be used and abused just so that your ex stays in your life. That\u2019s not healthy, and it\u2019s not smart. You\u2019re worth more than that\u2014and it never works in the long run, anyway. It teaches your ex to disrespect you, and once they find someone who will stand up to them, and who is a bit more feisty, they\u2019ll be gone anyway. <\/p>\n
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Possessiveness and Jealousy won\u2019t win you any favors when it comes to how to get your ex to love you again. In fact, it will have the opposite impact. It\u2019s easy to think that if they only know just how much you love them, they\u2019ll choose to stay. You smother them with gifts, in an attempt to buy their love. Here\u2019s the thing. They already know how much you love them; that\u2019s never been in question. The issue is they don\u2019t reciprocate that affection. The more you lavish time and attention and money on them, the more uncomfortable you\u2019ll make them feel, and the idea of leaving will become even more appealing. <\/p>\n
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When you focus on yourself, you\u2019re not being selfish. You\u2019re reaffirming to yourself and your ex that you\u2019re strong and confident and capable of being happy without them. So often when relationships fail it\u2019s because the people involved have become trapped in a manner of behaving that has grown into a habit, but it\u2019s not who they truly are. You\u2019ve started bringing out the worst in each other, rather than the best. It\u2019s time to stop texting, stop phoning, stop whining, stop smothering, and start focusing all that time and energy on yourself. Take a class, start a hobby, champion a cause, volunteer somewhere, get a haircut, buy new shoes\u2014whatever makes you feel good about yourself. Remember, you want your ex to see you happy and bubbly, so that they remember what captivated them about you in the first place, right? <\/p>\n
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When you\u2019ve let at least four to six weeks pass since the breakup, during which time you\u2019ve worked on finding your mojo again and not had any contact with your ex, it\u2019s time to reach out. Now, that sounds like a complete violation of step number one, but it\u2019s really not. If the two of you were in a serious relationship and this thing is meant to be, then one of you has to break the ice. You\u2019ve got a new look, a new attitude, and a new sense of personal empowerment. You\u2019ve got the upper hand, and that goes a long way when it comes to how to get your ex to love you again. Don\u2019t just send an empty text that says \u2018hey.\u2019 Don\u2019t immediately start professing undying love. Don\u2019t beg them to come see you. Have some class and choose your moment carefully. What holidays are coming up; is there an occasion or a birthday that you could comment on? Don\u2019t send a text; send a card or an email. If it\u2019s a holiday or their birthday, a paper card might be more appropriate. If you\u2019re sending an email, send a message that is non-committal, that doesn\u2019t require anything from them, one that\u2019s completely neutral. Something like, \u201cI saw your favorite restaurant is shutting down, and wanted you to know I was sorry to hear this,\u201d or \u201cI\u2019ve just been to see this movie, and I know it was one of your favorites. It was really good, wasn\u2019t it?\u201d Don\u2019t talk about your feelings, don\u2019t ask them on a date, don\u2019t mention getting back together. The whole idea here is to pique their curiosity, remind them of the happy times you had together. <\/p>\n
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In the end everyone is different, and there are no guarantees that you\u2019ll reconcile. Some people are just toxic when combined, and shouldn\u2019t try to get back together. However, if you guys were a couple for awhile, and things slowly went wrong without a huge catalyst that prompted the breakup, if your relationship was good and you just lost your passion and your interest for each other over time, then there\u2019s every chance that you could reconcile if you play your cards right. The beautiful thing about following these steps is that, even if you don\u2019t get back with your ex, you\u2019ll find a new confidence and a new sense of self-worth, and that will propel you to someone who is even more suitable for you than your ex! You just have to believe in yourself, and give it time. After all, if you don\u2019t believe you\u2019re awesome, why should your ex\u2014or anyone else, for that matter?<\/p>\n